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Although I originally posted this blog three years the importance of speaking out and providing resources regarding depression and mental illness continues to be the dark secret no one wants to talk about. Just this year alone on my social media feeds I can count over twenty suicides from celebrities to every day people who are our friends, family and neighbors. During this season of holiday cheer let’s keep a special eye out for co-workers, family or friends who seem to be a little down, acting a bit out of character outside of the daily life grinds, who seem to be retreating into the shadows. The online therapy links resources within my blog could very well save someone’s life. -Dr. Tamara Johnson, PhD
Stress, relationship drama and depression can ruin your holidays and hurt your health. Being realistic, planning ahead and seeking support can help ward off holiday stress and depression.
The holiday season often brings unwelcome guests — stress and depression. And it’s no wonder. The holidays present a dizzying array of demands — parties, shopping, baking, cleaning and entertaining, to name just a few.
But with some practical tips, you can minimize the stress that accompanies the holidays. You may even end up enjoying the holidays more than you thought you would.
When stress is at its peak, it’s hard to stop and regroup. Try to prevent stress and depression in the first place, especially if the holidays have taken an emotional toll on you in the past. Below are a few strategies to combat the holiday blues.
Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can’t be with loved ones, realize that it’s normal to feel sadness and grief. It’s appropriate and therapeutic to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can’t force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holiday season.
Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out community, religious or other social events. They can offer support and companionship. Volunteering your time to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships.
Be realistic. The holidays don’t have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones. For example, if you’re adult children can’t come to your house, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos.
Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don’t live up to all of your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they’re feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.
Stick to a budget. Before you go gift and food shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget. Don’t try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts and start 2015 in major financial debt.
Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list. That’ll help prevent last-minute scrambling to buy forgotten ingredients. And make sure to line up help for party prep and cleanup.
Learn to say No. Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and colleagues will understand if you can’t participate in every project or activity. If it’s not possible to say no when your boss asks you to work overtime, try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for the lost time.
Don’t abandon healthy habits. If you’ve kept a consistent work-out regimen for health and to keep off excess weight, don’t let the holidays become a free-for-all. Overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt. It’s often easier said than done with all the holiday festivities that often included food and alcoholic drinks, but, here’s just a couple of suggestions to combat the urge to kick your health healthy habits to the curb during the holidays. First, Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so that you don’t go overboard on sweets, cheese or alcoholic and drinks that are heavy on calories. And second, get plenty of uninterrupted sleep, as well as time for brief naps if possible. Continue and/or incorporate regular physical activity into each day.
Take a breather. Make some time for yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do. Find something that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm.
Seek professional help if you need it. Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to face routine activities. If these feelings last for more than a few days, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional. Also see Therapy Is Now High-Tech
If you have holiday anxiety each year, don’t let the holidays become something you dread. Instead, take steps to prevent the stress and depression that can descend during the holidays. Learn to recognize your holiday triggers, such as financial pressures, family and/or relationship drama or personal demands, so you can combat them before they lead to a meltdown. With a little planning and some positive thinking, you can find peace and joy during the holidays.
Therapy Is Now High-Tech
Typically in the African-American community mental health and mental health issues are a touchy subject, thus many suffer in silence and do not seek the medical and/or spiritual support needed to work through mental and psychological issues especially during the holiday season.
So, for those who would like to seek professional mental therapy help, but do not wish to see a therapist face to face and put in coach time, or other types of onsite therapy help through traditional means, or if there is just not time in your already over-booked day to have the time to schedule a therapy session during normal business hours; there are some alternative virtual, online and even text-based therapy options that are currently offered through licensed and accredited therapists, who will maintain the same level of confidentiality and professional therapy strategies as any off-line mental health or psychiatric professional. These alternative digital based e-therapies may also give the confidence and security via your own laptop, desktop, tablet or smartphone to speak freely and honestly in the confines of your own home, work office or any other private setting.
Below is a short list of online therapy services that may offer the help needed to deal with holiday blues, stresses and depression-
7 Cups of Tea – www.7cupsoftea.com
BetterHelp – www.betterhelp.com
Breakthrough Behavioral – www.breakthrough.com
Sunrise Counseling – www.sunrisecounselling.com
talkspace – www.talkspace.com
There is never shame in reaching out or seeking help for our mental issues and stresses, especially if it allows for the healing and maintenance of a healthy and balanced mind, body and spirit; especially during the holidays.
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